Last night we went out for dinner to a local family-friendly venue in our area. It was a good option for families, with high chairs, a kids’ menu, and even a playroom. But there was one vital element missing…
My daughter enjoyed some of the finger food titbits we offered her and soon enough, it was time for a nappy change. Her dad decided to do the honours while I finished my meal. Only then did we encounter the problem; no change facilities in the men’s room! My partner had to rest our daughter on the marble sink top between two basins, her head pressed against the mirror, feet dangling over the edge.
We started thinking about this problem and my partner said he doesn’t ever recall seeing a change table in a men’s room; at least not in Australia. My daughter’s father and I share equal baby-raising responsibility when we’re both available, so why should I, as her mother, be the only one able to change her nappy while we’re out? It’s both sexist and inconvenient.
What do dads do when their wives and partners aren’t around, and, for that matter, how do all the single fathers manage? As a woman and a mother, I would have no problem at all if a man was to enter the ladies’ toilet to change his child. I told my partner this, but he still felt uncomfortable with the idea. So his best option is to look for venues that provide a change table in a family or unisex toilet, and there are a number of these around; but it’s not always possible.
As most parents will know, a baby change table can be purchased for under $100. For space-constrained venues, wall-mounted change tables are less than $500. Are there really so few dads doing poo duty that venues don’t see the value in spending just $100 on this important piece of furniture? I find that hard to believe.
Here at Bubba West, we want to celebrate the venues that do offer men’s room changing facilities. Please get in touch below and share the names and locations of any inner west venues you find that offer this essential facility for dads. Help spread the word!
The next time I visit a venue without a dad-accessible change table, I will mention to the staff how useful this would be to their patrons – it’s time for a bit of nappy equality!